What can be a more amazing travel journey than life itself? Think about this
question. It is important.
Each of us is born on this planet
for a certain purpose. We all have a certain mission to realize in life.
It can be anything: creating
a family, becoming a banker or spending one¡¯s whole life on the road. The most
important thing is to know: this is what you are supposed to do.
Quite often, unfortunately, many
of us do not have this feeling – the feeling of wholeness, the feeling of
belonging, the feeling of happiness. Instead we perform, or procrastinate or
try to conform to certain rules imposed on us by society, without stopping for
a second and asking ourselves: am I content? Am I doing what I really want to
do?
Realizing our full potential and
finding our true self is the true travel journey of life.
Not long ago, when I was yet
again changing countries of residence, a friend of mine told me a very
important thing:
¡°Ekaterina,¡± he said, ¡°I know why
you are moving, but never forget that whatever your destination, you always
take yourself with you. Finding yourself is your true destination.¡±
The Road Ahead
For more than ten years my life
has been that of a traveler. Even though for the majority of these ten years I
had an apartment and a steady job, I was still traveling. I was traveling in my
mind, I was changing countries and I was always looking for a better place, a
better world.
My gradation stopped at the
first scale, along with that simple vision of reality as soon as the political
regime changed.
However, what didn¡¯t change was
the belief that in order to succeed in society one has to perform, one has to
graduate. The goal was no longer a final communist grade; it became something
else, but it all came down to the same gradation system the majority of us are
taught to achieve – almost from the day we are born.
You have to do this, you have to
become that, you have to be better and work harder than others, and you have to
be like everyone else. Because of these rules, slowly but surely we tend to
take a road opposite to our true destination.
A Reflection
With a title of financial analyst
and portfolio manager, living in the center of Amsterdam, speaking four
languages and in possession of a membership in the most prestigious sport club
of the city, I had everything one can wish for in life. But in reality I had
nothing at all.
I was losing myself, I was simply
performing, thinking that life is about having a prestigious job, a cool
apartment and a nice salary. And only my terrible stomach pains and the crying
during the night were clear indicators that the ¡®ideal¡¯ life I led was actually
quite miserable.
One day I decided to create
my own gradation system, or to be more precise, the absence of any gradation
system. I stopped performing.
First, I canceled my membership
to the sport club. Second, I changed jobs, agreeing to a lower salary and a
less prestigious title simply to allow myself to find my own journey. Third, I
started to write.
Being in love with books all my
life I always wanted to share stories, and regardless of whether I am an
unpublished or published writer, writing for myself is something that gives me
the best satisfaction of all.
Finally, I started to follow the
signs – the signs of life, trying to see who am I, what I am doing in this life
and why?
I asked myself: what do I really
like to do?
Journey of
Wonder
The discovery of signs led me to
an important realization: Life is a journey of wonder.
If I stayed in my gradation niche
I would probably never have discovered bio-dance as a perfect alternative to
the gym, gentle respiration techniques to make me calm and Tarot reading as a
perfect activity for spending time when I am on my own.
All this resulted in the fact
that, yet again, I changed my country of residence. I moved from Amsterdam to
Brussels, the city where I had gone to university and where I couldn¡¯t stay
after my studies due to my Russian citizenship at that time.
I came back to this city without
a grade, with a Dutch passport and as a new person. I realized one of the most
important lessons in life: whatever your nationality, profession, salary or the
net amount your house costs, the only real thing in life is you.
All stories have the same line. A
hero leaves his village for the discovery of the world.
His first obstacle comes when he
is on the road: he has to choose his destination. His second obstacle is during
the journey. He has to fight the enemies. And finally, he has the most
important choice: does he continue the journey or go back to the village?
We are all heroes on the road.
And the most important journey for all of us is to meet our true selves. Apart
from external enemies, quite often the biggest villain lies within, and this
villain in the majority of cases is our own ego. Finding our soul and realizing
our true potential is where our village lies.
As Paolo Coelho once said: ¡°Never
give up on your dreams, – follow the signs.¡±
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