Our greatest
glory is not in never failing,
but in rising every time we fail.
~ Confucius
I am always in awe of the beauty found in spring.
It's my favorite season with the bright sun, gentle rains, vibrant colors and
warmer temperatures. One of the most special sights from my office window
is to look out and see the yellow daffodils peeking out and coming up. I
am always amazed that they come up year after year as beautiful as ever.
That's the wondrous thing about us humans as well. Over and over again,
year after year, we keep blooming. We are given second chances to shine.
Have you ever failed miserably at something? Have you ever made a big
mistake that seemed impossible to fix? Or had an illness from which you
thought you might not recover? Maybe you are facing some of these
challenges now.
If so, I have good news for you! You have a second chance. You get
to wipe the slate clean and start all over again. You have a blank canvas
and get to paint a new creation. Don't give up! Just look for your
second chance.
Do you know what a second chance looks like? Most often, it is not
dressed as we have imagined it to be. Sometimes it requires being able to
see the big picture in order to see the gift found in a second chance.
You have to put on your "second chance spectacles" and look for it or
you could just miss it altogether. What a shame that would be.
Second chances are blessings! They are grace at its very core.
Maybe your second chance looks like a different partner,
and not the one you thought you'd grow old with, to travel with you through
life. Or maybe it looks like a different job instead of the one you
thought you "had" to have. It could look like a new location in
which to live instead of where you have grown comfortably. Or medicine
that makes you feel ill, in order to ultimately heal you. Maybe your
second chance is simply the opportunity for you to share who you are with
others instead of hiding behind an image.
How do you recognize the second chances that come your way? I'd like to
offer three suggestions that will help you see them:
1. Let go of the past. Learn your lessons. . . never forget them, but
move on. Learn to forgive others and, (this is a biggie!), learn to
forgive yourself. It's difficult to move forward and take advantage of
second chances if you are stuck in the past. Let it go.
Finish each
day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and
absurdities no doubt creep in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow
is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be
cumbered with your old nonsense. This day is all that is good and
fair. It is too dear, with its hopes and invitations, to waste a moment
on the yesterdays.
2. Develop a positive attitude and awareness.
Expect the best and look for the good. Become conscious of opportunities
and very often you will find them right under your nose. Second chances
can be quiet and disguised -- one has to be on the lookout for them.
Thomas Jefferson said, "Nothing can stop the man with the right mental
attitude from achieving his goal. Nothing on earth can help the man with
the wrong attitude."
Develop the right attitude for you and see what happens.
3. Persevere. Keep on. Figure it out. Press on. If one
approach doesn't work the way you would like it to, then try another. Do
what you gotta do.
One of my very favorite quotes is from Ann Landers, who says, "If I were
asked to give what I consider the single most important piece of advice for all
humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life
and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, 'I
will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.'"
Wow. I love that!
So, then, our success formula is:
Let Go + Positive Attitude + Perseverance = Second Chances
When I see the April daffodils popping up as they do, I am reminded of how
they, like us, are given the chance to grow, become stronger and more beautiful
with each spring season. It's a time of new beginnings -- a time for
second chances. Will you claim yours?
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